The "contrast with positive images of what could be, with what she has..." please remember that. And how different you are now, so that M to you now would be different and better of course. So, NO neediness and no clinging and no over excitement = expectations from K4...nope.
K4 is Just an upbeat father who LOVES his kids and Christmas AND is FUN to be around (but not a teenager) and happy and HAS A life and friends and interests and is a good catch...Okay? Nothing to notice or comment about or seethe about, with how SHE seems or acts or what she says or does or whatever. You do NOT notice that on the day.B/C You're too busy having a blast! It's the NEW K4!
And you are right to step back & BREATHE...relax...relax so everyone around you can do the same. If you can't relax, you won't have or be fun. So do it Kevin....relax. Take deep breaths (without showing them) and enjoy this holiday. That's the goal. Not reconciling or having a miracle or planting a seed...nope. Having a relaxed holiday without a scene, is the goal. What springs from that is not for us to know yet. But keep your expectations and hopes at a healthy productive level.It's the only way this works. Good luck!
Gotta go, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
