Thanks Addie, My IC also said that the fact that my H is willing/able to talk about OW and the A so easily with me is a good sign of our future ability to re-build. He really, really trusts me... tells me I'm the ONLY person in his life he trusts, and that this was even true during the A... he never really trusted her even though he thought at one point he would D me and M her. Ironic, isn't it? And, now I can't trust him anymore, when I used to completely. But, I do hope and pray that will be re-built.
I do tell him when I am at my limit and when I can't hear anymore. He does respect that.
Wow we do have a lot of similarities in our sitches don't we? The whole mid life thing, and looking for feeling young and alive again... my H has admitted that was part of it. And, he struggles with shame because he never thought he would fall into that. I never thought he would either.
