I completely get where you are coming from. I'm going with a little something for two reasons.

1) I know that she bought me something. I saw the credit card bill. It was bought before she moved out.
2) I will do it because that't the kind of guy that I am. I know that I will never beel bad about getting her a small something. That's me. I am the good guy. I don't let her take that from me. She can reject it (like she did the anniversary gift that I got her this past summer...out 10th), but I feel it is the right thing to do in my sitch.

As far as being the one to take it apart - I never wanted it to come to me being the one who made that move. I don't see that anything will ever change if I don't. Heck, W started texting me from her !@#$#ing GF's house just a few minutes ago. She still doesn't get it! It appears it will come down to me. My goal will be to give it one more month before I make any moves toward it or bring it up in discussion.


Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.