I have your job, Will, so I KNOW how stressful your day is. On top of that, you have a medically dependent W and child, money problems and you communicate like a man (no offense). Y'all need to stop the bleeding on this thing, regroup and make a peaceful life.
You should be on Christmas break now, right? Sit down, map some plans out on paper that will address how to help your W with her family responsibilities while she is unwell. Then execute on them. Show her that you SEE HER STRUGGLE and as her partner in running this family, you will step up and assist her in her time of need.
I don't think she is trying to push you away so you can have better. I think it is more likely she doesn't think YOU will ever be BETTER for her. But you can change that impression, Will.
Use this Christmas break to sort through this. Don't you go up to that school and work!
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