Looking for Advice

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So firm boundary needs to be stop all contact or I contact OM's wife. Right?
Does this really work?

Usually, yes. He will run for the hills. Not b/c you have scared him but b/c his W is going to scare him. Look, if he loved your W enough to leave, he would have done it by now. He does NOT want his W to know - and all that implies.

"W, if you have contact with OM, I will notify his W and start the clock on your three weeks to get yourself moved out of the family home. I will not share your attention and affection with another man." Firm.

Next point - in part II of our conversation (she brough it up after kids in bed) she tells me that she has noticed the change and she doesn't even like a lot of the new me. She doesn't know who this is. What in the world do I do with piece of information?

"W, whether you like my improvements or not is neither here nor there. I have made changes to suit myself b/c I want to be a better man for me."

It is probably not so much that she doesn't LIKE the changes - she doesn't TRUST the changes.

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