glad you haven't responded to her yet. you need to keep her at a really big distance. I would tell her that your not going to play the blame game, but that it is in her best interest for her to end her R with him, that she will end up like all the rest. I think it would be best not to tell her details because one, she really doesn't need to hear them, and two, because you know it's going to go back to H, and IMHO, it's not the right thing to do. I really don't think it would benefit anyone in the end.

that is funny about her text to exh...I like that, and good that you didn't respond at the party too.

try your best not to go off on him about it again.. the best thing to do is to be calm, and uphold the boundaries you have set and do it in a calm way. I'd almost want to ask him "what do you really want out of your life? do you feel your making the right choices to help you get there?"

oh, and hey, you are not pathetic!!! a little too focused on the wrong things sometimes, but not pathetic. wink and of course that girl IS pathetic, she's having an A on her own H.
maybe you can go about that route and divert her attention from exh to her own h? but, that's the helper in me...I still sense that it's not a good idea to be friends with her. so, just becareful whatever you do.

you just need to move outa that tiny town!!!

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."