I just spoke with my therapist. He said that I should wait on resuming the bedroom until after Christmas. It would be a power move and that it would cause too much drama and anger which would ruin it for the kids....He is right. I don't need that, it would be selfish. Instead, I will cease with the sarcastic remarks, validate her, work on me, I bought some of the books recommended and I am reading those.
Thanks to all of you for your help. I'm so glad that I posted here. It helps me so much. Going it alone is a hard thing. There is an old saying with Christians " Loners never make it" Here.....I am not alone. I think I have a chance.
Ok but you can't hold off forever, you want to hold off till after christmas, commit to a date and do it, ie. Dec 28th, January 2nd but don't hold off because it appears selfish - that's ok, for you it will show that you believe your value & worth and you communicate that to her without actually telling her using words.
