Wednesday 12/16/09 my wife said that our marriage is dead. She wants a D. She told me this and I was like where did this come from? After finding this site I now have a name for it WAW. We have tried marriage counseling and other programs for the past two years. She said she is done trying. I know that we were having problems but I felt that the amount of stresses that we have been dealing with it was no wonder.
Anyway, when she first told me I thought that I would need to move out and that is what she wants. After reading some of the posts, I was wondering if I should just stay. I know that she considers herself the primary caretaker for our S almost 3, but right now she can’t take care of him because of her back. She has the option of moving in with her parents but I think that I should insist that our S stay with me and she can stay or go. What do you all think? She has seen a lawyer for initial consultation. Should I too?
Just a brief background: I have been married for ten years. About 6 years ago my W was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Before the diagnosis she was functioning for a few hours a day. At the time I had a job that was flexible and could schedule my time to help her. Due to losing half of our income and increasing medical expenses we were forced to declare bankruptcy. She was declared disabled shortly after declaring bankruptcy. We then moved into my parents FL for a year to regroup and then a year later moved near her parents in SC. I got a teaching job 08/06 and we had our son 12/30/06. He has dietary issues and is on a very restrictive diet. She has been in 2 car accidents 07/08 and 11/09 which have resulted in a bulging disc. She also had a miscarriage 09/09. After three years of teaching I got a job as an assistant principal. Thanks,
