Thanks Addie, I think that is a good approach. This is all still very new and fresh for us. He just ended the A on Nov. 27 and things are still fragile and hard for both of us. With the Christmas season, I think we are both trying to not trigger each other. After the holidays, I will look for those books and try to approach it that way, a bit at a time.
Also - we had started to see a MC when the A was going on, and I thought it was only an EA. Of course that didn't work because neither I nor the MC knew what was really happening. H has agreed that in the new year we should go back to MC. I think that might help to discuss some of these things too.
