Well - it is now about 8:15 Sunday evening at and I just got home from my Saturday evening date with ex. To say it went better than expected would be an understatement.
First of all - just taking her on her birthday dinner date is reaching one of my goals. But first, I got to her house around 3:30 and sat and talked some first - then she took a shower while I set up the fire pit for later that night. She had several outfits that she had laid out for the evening and she modeled them for me to see which one I wanted her to wear. I have had only one other girlfriend ask me what I wanted her to wear on a date. [This was not a met goal in that I did not even think to have that as a goal. This was just one of those real nice bonuses]
After settling on an outfit (a really nice purple/blue blouse and a black skirt and some blue high heal slip ons that I really like) [one of my goals was for her to wear those heels for me] and getting ready to go I gave her her birthday present. a 240 minute gift certificate to a Power Wave machine at a local tanning salon (the power wave machine is a type of bed that you lay on and water jets, just under the mattress part shoot jets of water all over your back as it moves from head to toe and back again for a long as your session. It can really knock out stress).
After some photos of us and each other and We went to the restaurant and had a very lovely steak dinner with a bottle of red wine, along with more photos, hugs, and kisses. After Dinner we went home and I took more photos before we changed then we got a bottle of wine from the Fridge and went out and started the fire in the fire pit and just laid down and talked and enjoyed the lunar eclipse (it was real cloudy and did not see much) Although we each had had some wine we really only had less than a glass per hour so I do not think either of us could be called drunk or even buzzed much. But the fire, moon, cuddling under the blankets etc. all led to her dropping her wall. And, under the full moon, in the middle of her back yard while we were under the blankets by the fire, we ML. [another goal met]
I had already planned to stay the night in the guest room but she changed her mind and I stayed with her.
The next morning I got up first and made coffee and brought her a cup in bed. We sat on the coach and talked over coffee for about an hour before we went out to eat breakfast. After that we went to the store to get groceries so that we could fix a lunch for one of her sons and his wife and two children who were bringing her her birthday present.
The lunch went very well - I helped with both fixing it and cleaning up (like I always did) and then we all sat and talked and played with the kids. While Ex was sitting on Front porch swing and I was sitting on porch in front of her she flashed me the American Sign Language sign for ILY. (something we had done to each other from right after we met to just before the bomb) [another goal met]
After the kids left we rested on the coach for about an hour then took a nice drive for about two hours. (the sun was out and it was too nice of a day not to go out) We stopped by a small restaurant and ordered 25 wings and after eating what we could, we went home. I then gave her a foot massage and then gathered up my things and got ready to go. Before I left I said ILY to her and she then flashed me the ILY sign back but then added the words too. [another goal met]
Although I since most of that WAW brick wall has been knocked down, all the old bricks of doubt, mis-trust, etc are still in a pile between us and it will take a lot of effort to clean them away. (and we must clean them away before we can be back together on a permanent basis) At least, however, most, if not all, of the brick wall is down.
