Hi Maple, It is hard to believe any of us consider reconciling with the things we've been through isn't it? Yet... so many of us do.... why? Because most of us are here on these boards because we believe in M and commitment and we love our spouses and our families. And, I have learned from my reading that M's can be saved and be better than ever after sitches like these.
BUT... it is a lot of work on our part as the LBS, and it often feels extrememly unfair, cuz it IS extremely unfair.
Your mixed feelings are so understandable and normal. I can sure relate to them. It is a roller coaster ride. But, I believe it is worth putting my best effort in.
Your list sounds good... one day at a time you will be ok! Keep us posted.... Rocked
