Update: H says his heart is open for the first time...ever. He wants to want me and love me, but he doesn't. He wants to want to touch, kiss me, but he just doesn't want to. He is willing to try, however. That is the good news. I don't know how to go about drawing him back. It hurts so much to know that he doesn't love me and possibly never has. It also hurts to know his heart belongs to someone else.

He told me I am great and beautiful, but I am not the most beautiful, wonderful, exciting person he has ever met. The latest OW is. I know I need a PMA and I am trying to GAL, but what else can I do? Has anyone experienced this?

Me - Faithful wife
H - WAH
Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year
Both in our early 40's
M - 16 years w/ no kids
T - 21 years
Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother