I told S I was going up to our hometown for my family's Christmases gathering this weekend. He expressed interest in going. W planned totake him to her GF's kids' birthday party that day. W gave in and let him come with me.
W called last week to ask to borrow our video camera. (Another event with GF.) Actually she texted me. I didn't respond for 20 minutes or so, so she called me. She was respectful and appreciative, but I hated that she was calling from GF's house and using my stuff for GF's benefit. I guess it's really "our" stuff and not really "mine" anyway.
W sent me a text Fridays that she was going to put both of our names on the from line on the gifts she is getting for S. She mentioned that she wasn't going to be able to afford much. I agreed to do the same (I would have anyway). Funny how she never seemed to value money so much when I was paying for everything.
S and I went back home for the weekend. W stayed at her new place. When I picked him up, I passed a few inexpensive items to her in a bag and told her I wanted to make sure S had lots to open over there on Christmas. It seemed to touch her.
She had mentioned wanting to do Christmas morning together when we talked on the phone Thursdays night. Actually it was more of a "I guess you wouldn't want to do Christmas together since you didn't want to do Thanksgiving together" statement. ...have the balls to ask if you want to ask! I just said he could do the morning with me then I would take him over to her.
It was emotional torture to go back there. It's where W and I are both from, where we met and spent the first few years together. Even worse when I actually found myself looking for her when it came time to say Grace before Christmas dinner at my Dad's house. This was the first one without her.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
