Ok - well, I am not really sure how else to progress this conversation forward so I will simply wish you a happy holiday.
To be blunt, my great concern is that you are so focused on planting a seed for regrowth with your W that you are NOT planting any seeds to regrow Kevin. IMO that has been the crux of the issue from the very start.
You openly said you are forgetting about yourself. I think that is a terrible injustice you are committing on Kevin.