He tried to console (sp?) me but instictively I pulled away.
K, Would you rather that H not have shown any compassion? I agree with Mishka - try to fight your instincts when he's responding positively. I did the same thing with my H for months when he tried to get closer because there were still so many unresolved issues, secrecy, lack of openness but it wasn't until I started to become receptive (even when it was going against my instincts to allow it), that things slowly started to improve. In my sitch transparency is still not there but I've seen improvements and I know I have to focus on the positives if this R is going to work..
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
