Once you make the decision, it will make you feel better. Limbo is a horrible existence. Found out I am not as strong as I thought in being able to handle it for a year(my original goal) I cut the cord at 8 months. I am in same position as you living at home with wife and 3 sons. My sons are quite astute as to what is going on. My middle son said to my w, why don't you hug daddy anymore. My oldest has become the peace officer anytime my w and I have a disagreement. We stopped the fighting for the most part in the house. I somewhat choose to not look her in the eye or carry on much conversation with her. Just having fun with my sons. Looking at her just makes me more mad as to what she has done or will do to my sons and myself. Hurting everyone around her so she can fulfill her destiny....
We both retained attorneys and are going through the process. I did it first because she stepped way over my boundary line and enough is enough. Her parents called yesterday and really didn't get why I wasn't coming for christmas eve. I don't think she has told them it is really done yet. When I don't show, everyone will get that it is done.
She did try telling some people in her family that I have a girlfriend, which her family told me(they all think she is crazy). I told her that was a nice try in making you look like the good guy, but I don't have one and wouldn't do that while I am married to you. Unlike her, I took our vows seriously.
Anyway, I would tell you that making that first move is like that shot over the bow. I started the ball rolling and it is rolling fast...
She will as I am sure your wife will understand someday what they did was wrong. I do have a letter written already to hand her the day the divorce is final. There is so many things I have wanted to say how she treated me through this process. However, fighting now only hurts the kids and would make her want to take everything she can from me. Right now, I am hoping the guilt factor is working for me and I wont have to pay alimony in addition to my child support....
Remarried 6 mo S 12 S 13 S 16 SD 12 SD 16 SD 17 SS 19
