Kevin... what if you knew that this was the last Christmas you would have on this planet. I know it's a morbid thought but lets just say this is the case. How would you spend it? Would you channel *any* energy towards your W who is seemingly a "lost cause" at this point or would you relish and soak up every minute of your children?
I would relish and soak up every minute with my kids as well as try to make things right/amends with my W and family before it being all over.
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It seems you are putting so much in place to WOW your W that you are missing the whole point of the holiday. JMO of course.
If you tell your W that 2+2=4 she is going to say that it equals 5. You keep throwing things out there to her thinking she will see things in a different way because you want her to.
Do you really think she cares what names are on what tags and if you put both your names that will indicate to her that you are still working on obtaining a "united front"?
Don't miss out on the true spirit of the holiday in order to WOW your W. You seem to be so busy focusing on the gamble you are taking the entire scope of what the holidays should be about is passing you right by.
I am not missing the point of the Christmas spirit. I intend to make it as great as possible for my kids. But I am also throwing in a gamble to see if there can be a turning point along the way. I could look at the streaks and cover 75% of the board based on history and still have her land on the 25%. It is a gamble. But either way, my girls will have a good Christmas and I will be a pleasure to be around with her family. Whatever the day and day after brings, it brings. But I will be able to say I took a shot with everything.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
