You need to do more than calm it with the sarcasm. It's a form of anger and a passive-agressive response. The first step in reonciliation is getting rid of the negative feelings. Did you hear how she responded,
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"see... you are so mean to me, you will never change"
Your anger validated her negative feelings, now "hear" the second part - "you will never change." Never is a permanent word, she thinks your R is hopeless. Consistent loving action (tough love at this point) is the Rx.
Learn to validate her feelings. R2C posted this to you:
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She can say whatever she wants, you just listen and validate (3 to get you started): "Yes, I can see why you would feel like that" "I can understand why you would feel like that" "It must be hard to feel like that"
Validate doesn't mean agree but you "see and hear" her, this is powerful. This will make you a better Doc as well.
You must break the cycle of poor communication and behavior.
"You must be the change you wish to see in this world." - Ghandi.
Handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
