She didn't respond, but I am just trying to throw out there that I am trying to be united. I don't know how she will take it. This should be interesting to see.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ok. She responded. She said she was just going to put from santa on hers. I texted her back saying cool. I was just letting her know. Thats all.
She said ok.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Kevin. We all know what you are REALLY trying to do. STOP trying to get a reaction out of your WAW. You didnt need to tell her anything. If it was trully for the girls then you didnt need to tell her anything. It will come off like you are trying to "one-up" her. Stop trying to look so good and just do it.
oh, and one other thing. DETAAAAACCCCCCHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!
Kevin, I hoping for the best for you on Christmas. I think it is a big step to celebrate a holiday together. You are doing well, just keep on going. But as far as the texting goes, I do the same thing and I think we are doing the wrong thing. We really aren't detaching, I'm just as guilty as you are.
Oh I did my cliff notes if you want to hop over to my thread. You will see what I'm saying about the texting. I texted H last night just to say Hi and ask how he was doing and got no response. Another let down, but the day before he responded.
How about you be interesting for a change? Do interesting things? Be interested in things other then what your wife might be thinking.
Ever notice how the women here think you are bone-headed, frustrating and don't listen. Think there is a trend? If you are like this IRL then no wonder your wife wants to D you. The first step to getting out of a hole is stop digging.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Kevin... what if you knew that this was the last Christmas you would have on this planet. I know it's a morbid thought but lets just say this is the case. How would you spend it? Would you channel *any* energy towards your W who is seemingly a "lost cause" at this point or would you relish and soak up every minute of your children?
It seems you are putting so much in place to WOW your W that you are missing the whole point of the holiday. JMO of course.
If you tell your W that 2+2=4 she is going to say that it equals 5. You keep throwing things out there to her thinking she will see things in a different way because you want her to.
Do you really think she cares what names are on what tags and if you put both your names that will indicate to her that you are still working on obtaining a "united front"?
Don't miss out on the true spirit of the holiday in order to WOW your W. You seem to be so busy focusing on the gamble you are taking the entire scope of what the holidays should be about is passing you right by.
Kevin. We all know what you are REALLY trying to do. STOP trying to get a reaction out of your WAW. You didnt need to tell her anything. If it was trully for the girls then you didnt need to tell her anything. It will come off like you are trying to "one-up" her. Stop trying to look so good and just do it.
oh, and one other thing. DETAAAAACCCCCCHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!
I was trying to see if we were being united on the gifts or not. I wasn't looking for any kind of reaction or to one up her. I was also just informing her of my intentions.
I think you are off the mark here.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Kevin, I hoping for the best for you on Christmas. I think it is a big step to celebrate a holiday together. You are doing well, just keep on going. But as far as the texting goes, I do the same thing and I think we are doing the wrong thing. We really aren't detaching, I'm just as guilty as you are.
Oh I did my cliff notes if you want to hop over to my thread. You will see what I'm saying about the texting. I texted H last night just to say Hi and ask how he was doing and got no response. Another let down, but the day before he responded.
The text I sent was strictly an informative text and to see if we were both united on this. Nothing more. I will stop by and take a look at your cliff notes.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
How about you be interesting for a change? Do interesting things? Be interested in things other then what your wife might be thinking.
Ever notice how the women here think you are bone-headed, frustrating and don't listen. Think there is a trend? If you are like this IRL then no wonder your wife wants to D you. The first step to getting out of a hole is stop digging.
I guess I was trying to dig to see if we were going to be united or not. Your point as always is well made Coach.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
