What can I do to save my marriage? Help

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She is always checking my phone to see what I am doing and who I am calling or texting. What's that all about?? Why does she care?

Oh she cares...believe me. She. Cares.

, we went out of town this weekend for one of my daughters athletic events. It was fun for me because I was with the other dads and after the event we hung out at the hotel and watched the Cowboys game and drank a few beers. The women went Christmas shopping. It’s so cool when we are with other people because she can put on this act like there is nothing wrong. It makes me feel halfway normal. When they are gone she’s hateful again. Weird how she can turn it off and on so fast. I suppose that has been my entire marriage.

You both have been pretending, sweeping and stuffing. You want real change now - real improvement. And you can have it. She can have it. Your M can be better than ever - I believe that. But the hard work, digging in the dirt, tough love is necessary FIRST.

I diffused any arguments quickly and just stayed calm and easygoing. I made a few sarcastic quips that I later regretted. I just wanted to get along.

Sarcasm = not good. If you want to deliver a message to your W, say it. Don't snark it. Many women see sarcasm as a weak feature in a man.

I think taking back the bedroom is a goal I need to do this week. I have given her space long enough.

That's not why you take it back. You take it back b/c it is the marital bedroom and you are still/ want to be married. If she does not, she can move to the other side of the house. Her choice. It's not about space. It's about standing up for the reality - you are married.

I was going to give her an awesome three diamond ring for Christmas with a nice letter do you think that would be the wrong thing to do? Wimp boy? I also bought her a set of German Knives...... Maybe that is the wrong thing too...LOL.

I'm going to assume by your LOL you really are joking. A three diamond ring for a woman who doesn't want to be married to you? Wow.

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