We've left churches, pulled kids out of schools and stopped socializing with friends because of W's self esteem/pride issues.
IMO that's not pride. Anger, lack of self-confidence (they might see the real her), passive-aggressive, pessimism and lack of self-love (shame/guilt).
Model compassion, forgiveness, assertive behavior, optimistic thinking and true giving for her.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.