oh no, do you make your casual acquantainces aware of things about you? Nope, you tell them hello and smile when you see them at the post office, and you see them when you see them, you dont seek them out or seek contact.
And thats just about all that she deserves.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
oh ok, I guess I can try that... I was more under the idea I could just go my own way... but if I "run into her" or she calls just act normal like she is no more to me than anyone else I know.. court is tomarrow so I guess I can try that there if thats whats recomended.. I was planning on just walking in sitting down and not giving her any eye contact at all!!
I dunno, I think then she will know that she gets to you, and she will be able to tell that you are upset, you know? But if you act like shes just not really worth your time, it seems like that would be way worse! What do you think of that? Maybe if you could ignore her and still portray that kinds of a persona...
Wow, I didnt realize that court was tomorrow. How are you doing with that?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
I will try I guess it depends on if she even shows, if she brings "B" and i guess the mood of it all... I know you guys say don't read into it but IM sure she has some feeling for me still just well LOL "I love you but not in love with you" because I was thinking how even the last time in court and well anytime she really really tries to see me.. she even was trying to look around my lawyer last time to see me.... I think she just wants her fun but misses the familar me if that makes sense
as for me... ya well seeing her this weekend was hard I have those skipping beat moments and the thought of well this is it! after court we are in the books as DONE no more... im sad the M failed but I do know I can move on with my life... hopefully I can get out and date some women who wont have any issues with me having kids (alot do)..
Well court is just a matter of hours away I guess I can say though that I NEVER cheated and I didnt have a GF or anything even through the divorce. I tried everything I could and offered forgiveness, I was a great husband and father even though she lied and said I was not.
I feel sad I gave her a great life and opened my life up to her for so long... I dont understand how a person can throw so much away!
but I hope to move on with my life and I know I cant until the divorce is final.
is it wrong to feel that I would not do it again (with the exceptions of my kids) ? I feel they are the only thing good I got out of the M
WL, I hope everything goes well today. Another one bites the dust. So sorry to hear about it but as you said you can hold your head up high and know that you did all you could and in the end did the right thing.
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is it wrong to feel that I would not do it again (with the exceptions of my kids) ? I feel they are the only thing good I got out of the M
No, not wrong. I feel the same way. But I know when I meet the real woman of my dreams I will want to do it all over again.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
((((WL)))) Good luck in court. Im sorry that things have gone this way.
Im not sure if I told you, but I dont think that feelings can be right or wrong, they just are. Its like trying to change the fact that you dont like red licorice, thats just the way it is. Dont feel bad about them. If its something that doesnt make you proud, acknowledge it, and move on.
And, I wouldnt do it again either.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
ok, well quick note right now on what happened in court.... W tried to be miss great bla bla had her boy friend there (looks like a street bumb really dirty!) well the judge ripped her a new one!!!!!! he made her admit what she was on (mostly coke) I mean this judge just kept ripping her one about not paying child support, the drugs money prettu much u name it but hey would not allow the divorce he continued it until feb.
some times i think some one does not want us divorced
I guess I can say though that I NEVER cheated and I didnt have a GF or anything even through the divorce. I tried everything I could and offered forgiveness, I was a great husband and father even though she lied and said I was not. 
he made her admit what she was on (mostly coke) I mean this judge just kept ripping her one about not paying child support, the drugs money prettu much u name it but hey would not allow the divorce he continued it until feb.