I did confirm what I suspected in that the very fact that the AD's make her feel like she does not give a darn is what is making her feel depressed. She runs her own business and needs to be sharp to make proper business decisions. I told her to tell that to the Dr.
She also said she is not going to stop cold turkey and will not do anything this week anyway - however, she was thinking of using a pill splitter and cutting the dose in half - I will still tell her to check with Dr. first though. - Thanks for your advice.
The Call was a very good PMA boost and she aready did an IM this morning, she wanted to catch me before Going to Court for the rest of the morning. Another PMA boost. YEA!
I have no idea on the proper way to come off of the medication as I didn't ask the doctor that knowing I am not at that stage yet. I just don't want to see anyone feel like I did when I stopped and I was fine for about a week after stopping them so it didn't happen right away. But when it hit it was very sudden! I thought I was fine and then I just started crying and couldn't stop. Things went on downhill from there as you probably remember.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Pam - "Positives on top of Positives!!!" and yet another one from the phone call last night. When I prepaid for 3 hours of DBing telephone coaching they threw in a 4 video tape collection of one of Michele's Marriage Relationship workshops called "The Marriage Breakthrough". I was telling Ex about it and that I would like to watch them with her and she said she would really like to do that. I am not going to push her for a time though. I have already watched the 1st hour by myself and it is really good.
Doing my 1st cup of coffee and thinking of the Positives for yesterday -
1. Suprise call yesterday morning - said she was drinking her coffee and thinking of me and wanted to call - Boost to PMA for the whole day 2. two different sessions of IM - both very good and ended with the HUG icon. 3. When I got home I looked at Caller ID and saw she had called and returned call back to her (she said she had not called - then I noticed it was her 7:30 am call not a 7:30 pm new call) but we talked for awhile anyway - her throat was sore and she could not talk much so I said my good byes. 4. Supprise call from her at 8:40 and we talked for 40 minutes. Asked me if I would come over and draw her a bubble bath, start a Floyd Craymer CD and light her candles. Even though I knew there was not way I could, I told her I could be there in 35 minutes. She said she was looking forward to when I could draw her bath for her though.
PS - also noticed that my business is doing better too. Things kinda dropped off right after the Bomb and now that my R is getting better so is the Business. Kinda interesting how they go together.
I did notice all the friends I have on the bb yesterday and I also noticed the times I saw names that posted to David that it is my friends who are posting and I should not be worried about what will be said because everyone here wants the best for David and I.
Wishing you a great day filled with lots of POSITIVES!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Odga, sounds like things are going great down there. One of the benefits of Piecing is that you get to rediscover all of the things that made you fall in love in the first place, after you've nearly lost them.
Makes it hard to take your S for granted, doesn't it?
I like your list of positives! And it sounds like she is taking big steps in your direction! I'm so happy for you! WOO HOO! Very positive!
And I want to say, it was wonderful of you do go and do her bidding! LOL! ohhhlala!
I have noticed that since I have started posting here in piecing, not only has my PMA picked up and stays up there. But My H is making more baby steps! I'm not complaining, this is diffently the happening place!
Hey Pam, Talitsa, and Deb (and anyone else reading)
another positive from the phone call last night. In talking about her birthday dinner this Saturday night, (I am taking her to a really nice steak house and I am wearing a suit) she told me she was planning on wearing her blue high heal slip on shoes. I happen to think she looks really good in high heals and I was with her last year when we found these blue heals and she knows that they are my favorite. It is one of my goals that she will dress up and wear those heals for me and it looks like she will do it.
Another item though that I do not know how do deal with yet. I seems that every year (even before we met) I would have all my family over to my house for Thanksgiving Dinner and after we married this continued be also had any of her family come too. Well since the Bomb in August I told my family that they needed to plan smelting else this year (I had sold my house when we married and now I am in an apartment, it is too small for my family) Well, my family is doing Thanksgiving at my older Brother's Sister in law's place and I am just bringing a store bought cake. (altho I might fix something too) Anyway, Ex told me last night that she had invited her three boys to her house for T-day but that they may end up going to their dad's place instead. This might mean that Ex might not have any place to go for T-Dinner. (I have asked her to eat a belated T-Dinner with just me over the weekend after T-Day) I would not mind asking her to go with me to my family's T-Dinner but I would think that that would make her very uncomfortable in that my family, while supporting me in my DBing, really do have some resentments toward her and it is way too soon for them to start working on that with her. It may be that this may be one of the consequences of her filing for D that she may have to live with. I will just have to let her know that our goal will be to have everything back on track by next year..
Things went on downhill from there as you probably remember. 
