So baby and I were at the park yesterday and my phone went off with a text from a strange number. It said "hi So2 this is MGF. You don't have to, but i would appreciate a text or a call back. I just want to clear some things up." I had a feeling I knew what she was calling for. I waited and I prayed on what to do. Do I really want to get involved?
At first I had no idea what "MGF" meant...I mean, "married girl friend" i got. But had NO idea it was your xh's married gf!?! Wow...wow, that's a new one for me here. Which is kinda saying a lot.
But then I remember when OW talked to me and it was very clarifying for both of us. I sent a text back and we ended up having a good conversation. He is doing the same thing to her that he did to countless others. She suspected other women in his life and he was pulling away. At first I kept my mouth shut but I can tell she felt like the Lone Ranger and i finally told her that she wasn't the first with this and most likely not the last.
Um, yeah. Why would she be the last? You're right on. Plus, btw, this is wacky....wacky crazy stuff. If we saw it in a film we would think the writer was making it up b/c no one would have this crazy stuff with a Married OW calling the xw of the man she's cheating on her h with? Am I getting this right? YIKES!!
She got mad and took their pic off of fb, all the while he was texting her and texting me at the same time. Wow. He really hasn't changed. CORRECT 100% So, it was a good conversation and i did tell her that if there was any way to reconcile her marriage than she should. Divorce is hard and it sucks. There seem to be way more frogs than prince charmings out there (no offense DB guys..you are princes).
We will see what she does now. She may go back to him. She may not.
He did tell her he hasn't cheated on anyone and his reputation of cheating with OW while I was pregnant was false. He told her that he is a victim of rumors. Yeah right!
God is really opening my eyes and providing great opportunities these past few days to see what is really going on and help others.
And helping yourself. This is a gift wrapped in painful reminders, but a gift nonetheless. This is God opening your eyes...be grateful! OMG what a priceless gift if this gets you moving sooner onto better things. I heard a quote about someone who'd been depressed and felt that they were not seeing any joy in their life anymore. They only saw the trees when they looked up, forgetting that there was still sky beyond the trees. A blue sky with a sun shining on them, if only they'd take a different look or find a better spot to get a better view...so they could find the light.
You are finding the light of freedom. Get out of the dark forest for now, and look to the light and GAL and have some fun and freedom from the madness that your Xh brings with him...I'm SO glad you got this from the man upstairs-- as I firmly believe you were given a small miracle and a sign. You can be happy, stay the course of movement forward and into the unknown and I am positive your life will improve. Next Christmas I want to see the post of "peace within" that I know you can feel. Have you checked this board on the "surviving divorce" section? It's filled with many good stories. Check out Austinsmartcookie sometime, or Bworl, or Was2Sad, or BaseballAnne, Holly06 Or AmyCee....all happy endings with divorce....and time... Go to that light and be awake...
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
