Thanks again guys for the support.

Avermont:
Seeing OM at the shop was actually a surprise. Because of his sitch (ie. working for them in another town, poor sickness record etc.) I didn't think they would take him on. He now has two jobs I believe (I could be wrong) which is something I refused to in the M so that I can have the time with D (I only see her set times). I'll also take on board what you said about the parent and getting on with it. Thanks.

DBD:
I know what you are saying about things getting worse before they get better. I'm hoping that is the case. I'm not going to make any decisions about the ring yet. It may not seem important but it's another thing tying me to the M. I can't even bear to look at the ring and it's inscription so it's actually doing more harm than good in the drawer.

Newmama:

Always a pearl of wisdom and PMA! Thanks. I don't want to respond to your post with a lot of negative as it did give me a little boost this morning when I first read it.

I am questioning everything I know about OM. If he has two jobs he's certainly stepped up to the plate so to speak. When I saw him at the shop the other night he was very VERY happy. That sort of new relationship happy. That isn't something I mentioned before as it occurred to me after I wrote the original post.

The NC isn't really the problem for me as I know it's only been a month. I keep harking back to the same old stuff - no response about car seat (which as I said is quite important for my D, at least W thinks so) although I think MAYBE she is keeping that as payment for the xmas decorations she didn't get; wouldn't put it past her - no card, text, email about my mum to me (although my dad did get a card from her apparently).

I will continue the NC as nothing else will work. I can't go back to her now and say 'Hi' as it will be ignored. I need to keep NC for me, but it's been a tough few days. As far as expecting anything to happen - I don't actually thing anything will happen at all, let alone a few months.

Dating is something I'm looking at but the 'pool' in this area is tiny. I have been out on one date but it was a bit of a disaster. Wasn't ready,

With regards to FB page, negativity rules so I am saying nothing.

Last edited by P17; 12/21/09 09:45 AM.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"