Nothing appeared on our anniversary but he sent this the next day- Dear Caroline The last 2 months have been pretty awful so I have not been able to give any time to the letters from your solicitor. I picked up a message from her but I didn't get back because I didn't want to go through any circumstances with her. I'm sure she is a decent enough person but she's a stranger to me.
My mum has been deteriorating rapidly and dad couldn't cope any longer so we decided to organise respite care. She had 8 days in a respite home and came out with a chest infection, severe dehydration and a UTI. She had to go to Dudley Road Hospital for 3 weeks. When she came out I picked up swine flu and the bloody thing laid me flat for 3 weeks. Then mum picked up another chest infection in the last 2 weeks and went back into Dudley Road last week. Last Monday I thought she would'nt make the weekend. But she seems to have pulled through the worst and hopefully she will be out before Christmas.
Sorry this sounds woeful. I just thought if you knew the circumstances, you would see I'm not sitting on the letters hoping everything will go away - I know it won't. Everything has been shelved - jobs, christmas etc. I've got to see mum settled when she's out and support dad till she is. But I will study the options your solicitor has given and respond to them in early January. Please let your solicitor know.
Thank you for sending the Christmas card to mum and dad. That meant a lot.
And it was our wedding anniversary yesterday - a Saturday as well. I was thinking about you and sending good thoughts.
Bless you Caroline and I hope you have a good Christmas. It's not reasonable to send my good thoughts to your family but please pass them on if you think its ok to do. Love to Pad especially.
Christopher x Naturally this has put me in a turmoil again-he has never lied to me (though hidden the truth about his affairs) so I believe this. I want to give him emotional support at this time but how to do it without seeming "pushy?"I havent sent him an anniversary or Christmas card.If anyone can spare a moment at this busy time to give me advice Id be grateful. A very happy Christmas to all my friends on this site especially dear snodderly without whose calm wisdom I would have gone under .
