My feeling is that she feels that she has lost my trust and wants it back, but it is confusing that she would want this but would want a divorce too. She says the guy that she was seeing was married. Still.... Going out to lunch 4 x (thats what she said), on the phone 100's of times, constant texting. Just stop cold turkey, something hot and heavy. I caught it about a 8 weeks into it.
Another troubling thing that she said to me was that it wasn't physical but she would have gone there if she had the opportunity. She also said that if I hadn't found out she would have waited until the kids went to college, then split. That makes a guy feel real good. How can you ignore that [censored].
Big red flag. Probably did get physical, sorry to say, but frankly though it hurts, it is the intent and mindset that is key. Betrayal doesn't need penetration.
Those activities you mentioned, just to confirm, you did put a stop to it?
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
