Another thing that is troubling me.... She always lays her phone out for me to see. It's not locked and I can look at it anytime. Nothing there. She wants me to trust her. I don't get it. She says she has nothing to hide and I can't find anything.
TRUST YOUR FEELINGS. Sounds fishy. She is snooping on your phone, and wants to to snoop hers.
We project what we believe. If she believes she is being untrustworthy, then she believes you are also. She wants to catch you doing what she is doing so she can BLAME YOU FOR THIS.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712