What can I do to save my marriage? Help

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Another thing that is troubling me.... She always lays her phone out for me to see. It's not locked and I can look at it anytime. Nothing there. She wants me to trust her. I don't get it. She says she has nothing to hide and I can't find anything.

Deep it looks like you did the right things and got your family back. I will follow the advice from Rob and R2C. I can't let her push me around. I have always told her that there are no bars on these doors. She can leave when ever she wants. I bet if I was abusing her or the kids she would be out the door in a minute even with the present financial situation.