What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

First of all, thank you all for your advice. I know everyones situation is different but, in the past I have been the one in control. I just need to get my act back together. I will look into those books. I read Divorce Busting the other night. I have DR and will get on that next.

It’s only been a couple of months, and I think I am moving through the stages of this pretty fast. It looks like all guys do the same thing. It’s predictable. I’m getting to the point now where I don’t care what happens. I suppose that’s good. I’m a decent looking guy and some women have already heard about me and have shown their interest. However, I prefer to take the high road.

She is always checking my phone to see what I am doing and who I am calling or texting. What's that all about?? Why does she care?

Anyway, we went out of town this weekend for one of my daughters athletic events. It was fun for me because I was with the other dads and after the event we hung out at the hotel and watched the Cowboys game and drank a few beers. The women went Christmas shopping. It’s so cool when we are with other people because she can put on this act like there is nothing wrong. It makes me feel halfway normal. When they are gone she’s hateful again. Weird how she can turn it off and on so fast. I suppose that has been my entire marriage.

We had to drive 4 hrs each way to the event with the kids. I just stayed quiet and just talked when I found something interesting. We even laughed a little. When things started to get too chummy she tried to pick a fight. Told me I have no respect for her. I think she could find fault with Jesus Christ.

I diffused any arguments quickly and just stayed calm and easygoing. I made a few sarcastic quips that I later regretted. I just wanted to get along.

I think taking back the bedroom is a goal I need to do this week. I have given her space long enough. She is getting too used to it. She says she likes me out there. She also likes me paying all the bills too. Big whoop.

I was going to give her an awesome three diamond ring for Christmas with a nice letter do you think that would be the wrong thing to do? Wimp boy? I also bought her a set of German Knives...... Maybe that is the wrong thing too...LOL.