Dusk at Dawn.

[newmama]

I am not 100% understanding on your statement about escaping?

OM is a complete opposite of me.And the two quick promtions got ladybug thinking materialistic. She always had tendencies here. Bizzaro world. As ladybug was always about family and comes from humble background. OM comes from old money. Almost 10 years older. His wife is a well respected Doctor. Its a completely different world.

[b]I guess I am just saying she snapped.[/b] Self entitlement took over and then went on overload. It was all very quick. She did tell one of her friends that life was too stable, she was bored because of the security and just wanted to shake things up in her life. ( This was during the Plan A days where she was a cake walking queen and enjoying both worlds )

Escape...escape... from her troubles. She snapped you say, going for someone totally different, the OM also has kids(you both want kids) and she said she wanted to shake things up. I am sure you must know by now that As are about them, not us.

Although Dr. Harley makes a good point about BS contributing to conditions that made the A possible, time and again it has to do more with WS's insecurities.

So like in my WH's sitch, I think he had an early MLC and went for the bad girl he never got in HS and his true self worth is low b/c he was bullied. So he is subconsciously using OW to prove something to his self worth(falsely).

I just wonder if your W is using OM to escape b/c of his money and kids but why...what is the deeper issue? I mean my WH is getting party time and fake sex, but I explained the deeper issues (I suspect) above.

I know we aren't supposed to think about WS, but it helped me to be more objective AND to make sense of this traumatic event AND to reserve love AND to find compassion AND to have hope AND to find more patience when I really thought hard about why an otherwise admirable H is doing this.