she just called and the Dr. (really just the nurse) called back and said she needs to be on them for 6 months before comming off - she may get a second opinion.
The reason is - clinical depression has a natural history, if untreated, of lasting approx. 6 mos to two years or so. Generally, if someone needs ADs, they need them for at least a year. If the issue is just sexual dysfunction, she should talk to her doctor about trying a different antidepressant.
she said that the AD's she is on make her feel that even though things might not be going the way she wants she does not care - a so what attitude. I seem to get the feeling from her that she does not like the "not caring what happens attitude" and haveing that so what attitued is itself getting her down.
got call from ex wife and we just did some chit chat for a few. We discussed her Birthday dinner coming up this Saturday. I am taking her to a nice Steak house that she has always wanted to go to and even though the restaurant has a policy of “proper attire required”, and I know that that may mean nice casual, I told her that I was wearing my suit. I also told her I wanted to buy us a bottle of wine to go with the steaks. She said that if we both drank the whole bottle of wine we might not be able to drive home and she said she already had a bottle chilled that we could drink when we went back to her place. Well I said that if I went to her place and had my share of a bottle of wine I might not be able to drive home later. She said the guest room was available. While the Guestroom is not my first choice, it is still nice. Even when I stay in the guestroom, I like to be able to fix her coffee and breakfast the next morning. All in all, it should be a good date.
Also, I told her that an ex boss of mine had invited me to his office Christmas party next month and that I could bring a friend. So I asked her to go with me and she said ok.
Since he came to our wedding, she asked me if he knew if we were not together anymore. (I find it interesting that she did not ask me if he knew if we were now divorced, but rather she used the term “not together anymore”) Anyway, I told her that I do not keep it secrete from my friends and she said she does not keep it secrete either. I do not know if she says she is divorced to her friends or not. At least she did not use the Divorce word when she was talking to me.
I agree the fact that she did not say the d word was nice. It sounds like the two of you should have a great time...and who knows? Go in with no expectations and you won't be upset. Still, we will all celebrate your success if that bottle of wine leads to birthday romance! Get a second opinion on the meds...welbutrin will not cause sexual dysfunction in most who use it....that's an AD that I have been on in the past. She might try that.
I do think we will have a good time too. But the Wine might be a two edged sword. I do not want her to ML because of the wine but because she wants to. So I will have to be careful.
She is talking about future R though. She is still feeling bad because of the sore throat. She has been to the Dr. several times and they still do not know exactly what she has. Lots of coughing and generally feeling bad. (Interesting fact is that with all our kissing and hugging and hand holding, I have not caught what she has.) Well, the last time I was over at her house and was leaving she was saying that she felt bad and I said that I wish that I could stay and just cuddle and hold her and make her feel better. She responded with "we will." And last night on the phone she said that she wished that I could come over and make the cough go away.
So, even though she will not say ILY and will not say she is commited to working on getting back together, I am happy that she does say she is moving in that direction but just not as fast as I would like. I told her that while I would like to go faster, if we in fact went as fast as I wanted, it would likely be even too fast for me to handle and that I really appreciated her restraint.
Wow - just getting ready to head out the door for work and was finishing my last few sips of coffee and guess who called just to say that she was thinking of me. Great shot to my PMA
(KMA - she said she is on Zoloft, 50 mg, and started in late July or early Aug. (Aug 9 she dropped the bomb) and she says she may want to come off them anyway. I still suggested she contact her Dr. about it or maybe another brand.)
Uhmmmm! Doesn't make sense to me.
