No!No!No! You tell her "Stop with the EA - that means no more contact. If you will not, this is what I'll do ~ I will let his W know so she can decide if she can live with this or not. And you will find another place to live b/c this is not an open marriage."
Then she will say - A>ok, I'll stop and be transparent OR B>no, I won't cut contact. If she says A...find a marriage counselor to start the healing and repair. If she says B...interview lawyers b/c your W is unfaithful.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08