Spent evening with FIL ( his birthday ) Had 2 pops and then went to a hockey game.
Just starting 2 weeks vacation. Still have not done any xmas decorations. But almost done the shopping part. Weekend was very busy. Friday was pints night with 2 work mates. We went out for dinner, hockey game and then one two many pints of stout. Sat. I got up and ran 15 km. Then planed a movie night with nephew and got ready for a xmas dinner party with some good friends. That night it was a night of wine and laughter and food and good company. I also went out on a mini date with one of festival girl's friends. We went to a movie today and then went our seperate ways. It was fun. Then spent the evening with FIL. We worked out a day to exchange gifts. ( I bought for FIL, MIL , BIL , and SIL and her family ) They did the same.
Its been 3 months of Plan B. Paitence is required here.
Plan B goals that I am working on. Here are my goals with Plan B
1. Force WAS to get all EN's from OM 2. Force WAS to live the fantasy life 3. Remove myself from the vortex of the affair. 4. Stop cake eating 5. Begin to figure out myself 6. Goals. Learn them 7. Goals. Reach them 8. Protect my marriage. Keep enough love to decide if I want to continue it when the adultery ends and WAS gets her head out of her ass. 9. This is about me not my wife.
Am I in a good place?
Yes and no.
Yes its safe. And I am going to spend tomorrow looking for an IC. I know what I want out of that now. I want keep up this good work I have done on myself. The IC is going to help. This is about me. My life. I own it. I control it.
Good luck everyone this week. It will be a rough go. But we will make it.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
