This Christmas Eve has maybe been the best one ever for my S4, S7 and me. We went hiking in the 18 degree F weather, then did gingerbread houses, then went to church, then built a landing pad for Santa's sleigh.
The boys are in bed asleep and Santa has already delivered an air hockey table and ski helments for the boys.
Oh, the WAW is "out of town at a place out of cell phone range" presumably (assuredly) with OM. WAW made a point of telling me she was going to do that three times before she left. I listened and then went on with other business without a beat.
WAW isn't coming back to me I'm sure.
More dates with new W friends. Very fun to laugh and know other W find me interesting.
I have already found an upgrade to WAW. Gotta go slow with that one. Have New Years Eve and New Years plans with her to go skiing. Now I gotta get some skiis. :-)
Weird how WAW thinks custody of our boys every other Christmas is any way to "live."
I am basically LRTing. WAW is in such a FOG anything rational is not happening. Slavery is freedom. War is peace.
Not getting many responses anymore on this forum. People must see my sitch is as hopeless as I do...
WAW called our S4 and S7 this Christmas morning. I she must be back from "out of town at a place out of cell phone range" with OM (see previous post on that topic).
WAW talked to my boys then specifically told S4 she wanted to talk to me. I could tell she had been crying, and she very nervously told me "Merry Christmas" four different times in the course of a 1-minute phone conversation. She didn't talk about business at all. I asked no questions and met each of her queries with a short, cheerful response. I said "bye" as quickly as possible.
How f#*king cheeky of WAW to be (most likely) at OM's house and make a point to tell me "Merry Christmas" over and over on the phone.
Ironically, this is the Merriest Christmas I can remember having for a long time. My boys, my parents and I together have had a great time. Very busy and very fun.
WAW got me an iPod shuffle from my boys as a Christmas gift. I want to smash it and give her the pieces.
How f#*king incredible to spend >$50 on such a nice gift for me the LBH who only heard evil things from her mouth for months and while she is f#*king OM?
I wouldn't use that iPod if someone paid me $1 Million.
I expect she requested to talk to me to hear from me how much I liked the iPod. Forget that-forget her-I have except when she wants to talk, and I can't get out of it.
When she dropped off my (yes my not "our" anymore) boys last weekend, she twice made sure in my presence that they had Daddy's gift with them.
The whole idea of getting each other Christmas gifts "from the boys" now or ever in the future irritates me beyond belief.
I felt compelled to get her something from my boys when she made such a big deal about my gift at drop off. I got her a custom calendar with different pictures of her and my boys each month. What a waste of $15...
It's so "cake and eat it too" to think I would appreciate (or frankly even want) a nice gift from her.
I think the best thing now is to write a short thank you to my boys at WAW's address and then re-gift the iPod to a niece or nephew on my side. What does everyone think?
Or tell her that you have donated it to a worthy person. There must be some person out there who would like an IPOD if you decide not to give it to a family member.
WAW has been very friendly, talkative on the phone. Always wanting to extend the conversations. Her game is so tiresome. I can only presume things must be good with OM.
Still not sure what to do about iPod. Received about 50-50 conflicting advice.
I have followed a rule since the second day she moved out not to mention Om's name no matter what.
New thought-return the iPod to Target and donate the cash to the food bank in her name! I could even send her the receipt for tax purposes. I will wait until after Jan 1 if I decide to do that.
WAW is mind reading again and "regardless of what you think of me, we still need to communicate."
Funny how the last six months she was in our house, I asked and pleaded with her to read Love Talks book and do the workbooks together.
NOW, we should "communicate?"
My not initiating any conversations and answering as succinctly as possible when I have to answer is really putting her off.
I am only about business with her and she hates it. She said "thank you for the (Christmas gift from my boys) calendar, it's so thoughtful, <on and on> ..." I told her "you're welcome."
If I had something I needed to discuss with her, I would schedule a conversation. On Dec 18, I did just that. We spoke on the phone for about 20 minutes. I was calm and businesslike the entire time.
I am certain she is not coming back. Why am I DBing and posting here?
I don't want a divorce, but I have detached and moved on.
My boys deserve better than what they have received with this separation and will get in the future with a divorce.
