Yes, cross our fingers and thank God things are showing signs of turning around. I'll check in on your sitch later.
Another good day with H - the BEST yet.
The open, softer H was back - ALL DAY. This is unheard of, people. I have not experienced this since pre-bomb eight months ago. We even had a family hug with S. We all made Christmas crafts - gingerbread houses and ornaments and H was fully participating. Lots of chatting, talking, laughing - nothing heavy.
The miracle is that the verbal abuse is lessoning - perhaps because of the holidays, perhaps because H has a few days off, perhaps because our finances are settled, perhaps because we started MC, perhaps because I've been stronger and standing up to him, perhaps a little of all these things.
And the few times he was the least bit snappy -= and they were very few and light - he apologized immediately.
It really is like the old days. Well, except he doesn't live here But he is here half the time and we are talking again - both about parenting issues, and in just a real fun way we used to when we were married and things were good.
God help us in MC we'll be able to carry these good communications into the harder stuff of our marrraige - we did last week bring up that we want to learn how to have a stronger and more healthy marriage-= that perhaps we never really had it to begin with. Like so many of you have said - the old R is dead and we are here to build a new one (or be done). So the rebuilding stage begins....
Thank you all for your love and support and prayers.
But he is here half the time and we are talking again - both about parenting issues, and in just a real fun way we used to when we were married and things were good. 
