Chiming in a bit late here, P17, but I, too, offer my consolations for having such a rough day.

I had a real wallow the other day. Finally was able to hear my counselor in my head: "After awhile, bring out your Parent who says, OK now, time to get on to things that have to get done." So I had the weeping child for awhile then--somehow--sucked it up to keep on having a day of some sort. Wasn't easy.

I think you dealt with seeing OM in the store as best you could. Inevitable, and perhaps better to get it over with?

And I admire your conviction not to let them change your habits--why should you be inconvenienced shopping just because of them? Good on you! Keep claiming your life and your habits in your town.

I hope you are feeling a bit more up by the time of this writing.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process