Don't try to figure out the future. Make it a real first date. Can you imagine insisting on counseling, various commitments etc..., when you first started dating someone? Dating is to learn whether you want to take the next step. So, learn together, don't try to figure everything out ahead of time.
And, congrats on taking the strong step you did, I bet you feel better for it :-) You should. It demonstrated real strength to take that step for your own reasons even when your W was pushing you to do it. (A worthwhile lesson too -- it makes it hard for people to do what they want to do and should do when we push them to do it.... Those things are best done from freedom. When we coerce, we stifle the chances for people to act freely.)
