So, I'm trying to figure out when to confront W with the fact that I now know EVERYTHING, and how to approach the confrontation. I had invited her to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas day with S7 and I so she wouldn't have to spend it alone, but don't want to do that now.
Do you REALLY not want to do that now? If not, you need to tell W and I would maybe use the time when you tell her to tell her what you know. That is a big decision to make, especially with Xmas. It may also have maximum impact at that time. Only you know your W and sitch best.
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I want to tell W that I'm divorcing her. I feel like I just need to retain a atty this week. But, I don't want to give away too much, too soon, and mess up any chances I have at retaining full custody of S7.
Why tell her at all? But make sure before you do this you are 100% sure as D doesn't fix the hurt and the pain.
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I also want to expose W's A to OM's girlfriend, as I feel that she has a right to know what's going on, but again, not sure how to approach this.
Most people talk about a 'tsunami of truth' and you should expose it to friends, family and employer (if relevant and they work together) all at the same time, on the same day so that it has maximum impact on them.
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Has anyone out there been betrayed and deceived multiple times like this and been able to work through it and reconcile M? I see next to no hope whatsoever now, and don't know if I could even if she truly wanted to try.
I am no expert on this but is somebody is a serial adulterer then you have two options - kick them to the curb or get THEM help.
Just my 2p worth.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
