Where in the world did that come from !!!

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OK, XMas !!

As you will know, my 3 kids S21, D17 & S15 are less than enthused with the way W has broken up our family and are really pissed with her. They are all at home with me while W is living with BIL about 500 yards away. The have seen her maybe a couple of hours once a fortnight or so for last 5 months.

Since W left I had made plans to go to my folks from XMas to New Year, then last week W says "I want the kids for XMas". I told her that since she left we we had made alternate plans. We sort of left it unresolved, but I said I wasn't going to wake up alone on XMas morning.

Kids and I discussed & they are happy enough to see W XMas Eve and then me pick them up and go to folks place 8:30ish 24th, and I'm happy enough with that too (it's just too cruel and I can't bring myself to do it). W doesn't know that we are all happy for this to happen.

Since we started MC, and W then stopped going I've been going by myself and getting lots out of it I might say and W has said that she thinks it's a good idea for me to go.

Question: Can I use the fact that I'm doing counselling to be in a position to say "As a positive result from MC I've 'softened' and am willing to compromise on what you want, or do I not want to seem to be seen as backing down all the time.