You are making progress on you, GAL. 180's. If your H is in MLC I hate to tell you this but it is not something that is going to get fixed in a fast manner. This is a very long process, he could be in MLC for 3-7 years. That would be after the bomb. I would suggest you read the resources in the MLC board. There is a link on page 6. Heart Blessing 6 stages of MLC is a start. Keep in mind that the time line is not exactly the way she describes it but the stages are correct, they just do not go in order 1,2,3,4,5,6. Depression is the key to MLC. I believe your H is depressed and you are not always going to get rationale responses to what you do or ask. You are learning that when you put pressure on him he tells you he wants a Divorce. That is why you have to stop doing anything that is close to putting pressure on him. The detach/NC is for you but it also stops putting pressure on him. The MLC'er is the one that decides to reconcile not you. Once he decides he want to R then you get to decide how the R will proceed or if it will proceed.
Your number one priority should be yourself and your children. Don't worry about him. You can't control him only yourself.
