Please Advise!!!! I Could Use Some HELP

[chatterbug]

You going to have to write and send a No Contact letter to the OP.

Not a love letter.

A very simple letter that states that he is not to contact you any longer.

And if he does. It is called harrasment. You can go to the police about this. Protect yourself now from him.

If you want we can help you write out a no contact letter.

This is a very important step for you to take. As you will be telling yourself that it is over.

What he accepts or does not accept is not your problem. Your problem is you.

Stand strong on this. And grieve the loss of this affair. Please do not call it a relationship. Call it an affair. And its an EA/PA

The next thing you need to do is go completely dark on the OM. Get rid of any reminders of him.

Also you are going to need to rebuild the boat. So start the repairs right away. Start with close friends. Ask for support to help you heal. And be honest with them at all times.

Take ownership of your mistakes. They are yours and no one else. Do not shift Blame.

I commited adultery.
I stepped out of the marriage.
I have boundary issues with the oppositie sex.
I have communication problems.

Perhaps IC can help you as well. But take ownership and then work on how you can 180 these problems into goals. Then break these goals down to smaller ones and work on improving yourself.


And how do you start to fight?

You come up with a plan. And you stick to it. You train hard.

And the past is the past. Learn your mistakes. And set yourself up for a life where you will no longer repeat them because you are becoming a better person from all of this.

This will be a hard path for you to follow. But you can do this if you have patience and you repair all those relationships with friends and family. For you will need their support through this as well.