You know CC, One thing I am trying to come to terms with is that it is not a bad thing to have a trusting nature and to have wanted to believe the best of your spouse. You should have been able to believe and trust her! I have wasted a lot of emotional energy kicking myself around about how I handled this or handled that, trusting too completely for too long... etc. But, enough of that!
If you have more than one infidelity to face, it changes things IMHO. I am not sure how I would respond to that if that came to light for me. It changes the ability to even consider re-building trust.
I think that you will need to confront your W about the new info, but when you are calm and able to do so in a calm manner. Wait a bit, plan out what to say in a way that is assertive but not confrontational.... asking valid questions but not attacking.
My heart goes out to you... it's a nightmare to get one punch in the gut, but another one?
You are still doing great, being a great dad and moving along in your own personal growth. Don't lose sight of that!
