Thank you very much everyone for advice and wisdom. I truly appreciate it. I've been married for a little over 3 years. My H is 35, I'm 33, and there no kids involved.
My EA lasted around 4 months. I got involved in an EA for all the typical reasons most woman quote. The OM paid a lot of attention to me, just like my H did when we first met. It seemed as though the OM took a great interest in me as a person. He planned dates, spent his last $1 on me, and the sex was very passionate! However, I soon realized that the OM was abusive, very smothering, and controlling. Furthermore, after receiving D papers I quickly realized the OM was NOT worth loosing my marriage and yes I came out of the FOG!
I have begun to detach from the OM but it continues to be a struggle because he can't accept NO for answer. The more I detach, the more he chases me. Very similar to my deteriorating M. The more I long for my H, it seems as though he is running away from me.
I've done some of the 180 techniques and have gotten some success. At least he answers the phone when I call. In DB is talks about patience but as you can imagine I feel like I'm running out of time because of the D and the upcoming trial date in Feb.
To be painfully honest, I want to fight for my M and my H but don't no where to start or what to say anymore. He's said some pretty mean and nasty things to me in the past and the rejection hurts. I guess that's to be expected. _________________________
