I'm no expert in A stuff, and hope never to be, but I don't see how you two can get any closer w/her committing time, emotional energy and ILY's w/anyone else.
I'm sure a lot of others w/experience w/this will be along shortly, but my GUTreaction is to have the conversation, telling her how you're working on yourself, enjoying your time together more, but are unsure yourself about the future of your M. The reason is that she's having what's called (at the very least) an EMOTIONAL affair w/someone else, thus blocking your chances of continuing the M.
Good Luck, and you'll have plenty of input soon.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
