A little more on her call - we talked for about 10 to 15 minutes - I had a client waiting so could not be much longer. She said she would call again when she got closer home but that likely will not be til after 6 or 7 tonight.
She called me though and that will help my afternoon go better.
It is more than wonderful. She called you as soon as she got her belongings and cleared customs! I wonder whether she had time to go to the restroom! And was 15 minutes on the phone with the guy she had divorced two weeks ago and had not seen for a week: sounds like she missed you a lot...
I agree with Pam. Doubt that laundry is going to be high on your list of priorities today...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
I have time to do one load before she gets into town - she called again and wanted to know if I knew of any traffic problems. looked up Atlanta traffic on the web and gave some suggestions on getting through town. She said If I wanted to bring puppy home tonight she would like that. Said she would be home around 7:30 - takes me 30 minutes to drive to her place so I have about 1 hour to do one or two loads of laundry.- I promise no pink boxers. (been there, done that)
Before I met Ex I was single for 12 years and kinda got past pink boxers, but just after the wedding I did mess up one of her blouses though. Watching out for pink boxers is nothing compaired to what you ladies have to watch out for.
Although she did not say she missed me I kinda got the feeling she did. And she still had two sisters in car so she might still not want to say too much where both can hear. Will see at 7:30 - wish me luck.
PS - she just called again said she made real good time and would be there in 30 to 50 minutes - so I guess I had better go.
Another good night - still a long way to go though.
I got there before sister brought her home so I was standing there when they drove up. Of course puppy ran out and met her first so she had to do the puppy petting thing but she quickly came over to me and gave me a big, tight hug and a nice kiss. Helped her get luggage out and upstairs and sis then left. We went in and she started telling me about trip, intermingled with a few more hugs and kisses. After a few minutes we went to eat and talked and had good time, even played footies under the table. At home after dinner I showed her some pictures I had printed from our recent dates and some of her and her son, her aunt who had passed away last year just before her 100th birthday, and some other general photos. One of the photos was one she took of me on the day of the Divorce. After the Divorce hearing we went for a drive. We had just finished a late lunch at a Mexican Restaurant and then spent a hour or so sitting and talking beside a real nice lake when we decided to go see a movie. We were in my car while waiting for the movie to start and we each took a photo of each other and they both turned out really good. She looked at the photo and said that “this does not look like a photo of a man that just went through a Divorce.” That stung some, but I do not think she meant it in a hurtful way. I said that it was a photo of a man that was looking forward and not looking backward.
After a few minutes of talking she said “Thank you, for all you have done”. I asked what for? She said for being there when she left, for fixing her breakfast on the day she left, for moving all the boxes, for printing the pictures, for being there when she got back, for watching the puppy while she was gone, and after a short pause she added, “and for loving me.” She was looking down at her lap when she said that and I reached over to her face and lifted her chin so she was looking right at me and I said that that was the easy part and we just hugged.
Since I started DBing I have not said the words ILY. (Except for Oct 13, the day before the final hearing. I called her and said that this would be the last time that I could call my wife and tell her how much I love her) Before DBing, my IM would have little hearts to say ILY but since then no ILY and no hearts ( I did start using little rainbows though). After starting the DBing I said ILY with my actions and using one or more of the 5 love languages. But even without saying the words ILY, she picked up on my actions and thanked me for loving her.
In all I feel it was a very good night. No ML but I have noticed that her hugs and kisses and touching are getting more intense with each contact. I feel it is just a matter of time before she actually says ILY - I felt she was close tonight, however she did say not to move too fast. I told her that I was not going to push her. With that we both looked at each other and then smiled a little, then I said “well, ... I am going to push some, just not push too much. That did bring up a nice little laugh.
Next weekend is her Birthday and I have reservations at a really nice restaurant. Told her I would be wearing my suit for dinner. She does not get too many chances to see me dressed up and I think it would be good to do.
- still a long way to go though.
