Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Think more about actions in the moment...and not so much speculating about what could happen. P17 is giving you some good advice about making him wonder, let him not be so sure. I would follow that.

Yes,I have just got the courage to start this last week! P, I am listening to you so don't give up on me! :-)

I would NOT toss out an ultimatum. That only works with follow through and completely depends on timing for the result...ie...you might get a result you don't want.

totally agree! been there, done that, didn't work.

I would not worry about cake-eating. If you focus on that, you will be nervous and angry all the time.

thank you! I am not so concerned about cake eating as everyone else looking in seems to be!

Pull back....be less available. Make your home a little less available to him. That is a very loving thing to do....to let him miss you more

I don't get how to make my home less available. But I can be less available. I still want to cook, though!

thank you, sgctxok! I appreciate your advice and am able to start being less available again! Today I am truly going to be busy so it will be easy!