Think more about actions in the moment...and not so much speculating about what could happen. P17 is giving you some good advice about making him wonder, let him not be so sure. I would follow that.
I would NOT toss out an ultimatum. That only works with follow through and completely depends on timing for the result...ie...you might get a result you don't want.
I would not worry about cake-eating. If you focus on that, you will be nervous and angry all the time.
Pull back....be less available. Make your home a little less available to him. That is a very loving thing to do....to let him miss you more.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
