Starting a new thread today. Yesterday, I spoke with BIL who is absolutely appalled at the things that my W has done behind my back. He provided me with some additional information regarding a male "friend" that W brought with her to his house for a concert back in May. This started the ball rolling, and I've since spoken to another mutual friend who has come clean with everything that she's known and wanted to tell me for quite a while.
Apparently, my W's infidelity started last November. She had come to me shortly after it happened, and acted like she was being up front and honest, and that it hadn't gone as far as full blown sex, but was merely a EA. Untrue. This May, when she was spending WAY too much time with a guy who was "just friends", she claimed that there was no way that she would have anything to do with him physically. Untrue. The OM that she is currently in a relationship with, who I busted having a PA with her but is now "just friends". Untrue.
I'm done. There is only so much that I was willing to tolerate. I was already on the edge of what I felt I could forgive, and now that's completely blown out of the water. My personal integrity and self-respect is worth so much more to me than this M. I have spent 15 years loving this woman with all my heart and soul. I've been completely faithful to her in every way. But I don't believe that I'm in a M that is worth saving at this point.
I imagine my next thread will be in the Surviving D forum. I really appreciate all of the advice and support from everyone on here, more than I can say.
Me 45 WAW 36 S8 T 15 M 12 Multiple PA's since 6/07 W moved out 10/25/09 I filed D 12/29/09 Sitch
