The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Well, yet another phone call. This time it was pressing for my daughter to come stay with her for the week. I said, to do what? Aren't you working? She said yes. I said, well I'm not and was planning to do stuff with her this week. I asked, what is she going to do? Sit over there and watch tv while you work and then when you get home, watch more tv and go to bed? She said, does that mean that you're not going to let me get her? I said, no, I never said that. She said, I think I'll bring up to my lawyer that I don't get her that much. I said, be sure to bring up that you refused to pay child support also.

She then asked again, are we going to work this out? I said, it doesn't appear so, you are going to see you lawyer to file tomorrow. She said, all you have to do is click that one person off of FB. She said, I understand that you think it's controlling you but it's not. She said, I think you're keeping her on there as a backup. I said that is absolutely not the case. (and it's not, she lives a long way away and doesn't even converse with me that often) I threw out the offer that PMA suggested. I said to her, if you go to one counseling session as a sign of good faith, I will take her off. No dice.

She went back to talking about my daughter. So, am I ever going to get to see her? Then, this blew me away. She said, I should have just sucked it up and stayed at home until she turned 18. WHAAAAATTTTTT???? I said, excuse me? Did you just say what I think you just said. I then asked, so are you telling me that you've just been trying to come home so that you can be with my daughter and that you intend to leave once she's gone? She said, no. I responded, well, I guess you could see where I would think that based on what you just said.

She then started crying and said she was ready to move on and not rehash anything else and why couldn't I just get past all of this? I told her that I didn't believe that she has told the truth about what she did and the fact that she seems so condescending and overbearing about the whole thing bothers me. She said, she didn't want to feel these feelings anymore, that she's gotten to a point where she could finally look in the mirror and that she could only ask for forgiveness so many times.

I get that it is painful for her. I know she has feelings about the whole sorted mess but it still feels like she is discounting my feelings in the whole sitch. Everything that happens has to happen when she says it needs to happen, she sets the timeline for everything.

Wait, she just called back to apologize and she brought up the FB thing again. She said, have you been on FB today and done what I asked. No, I haven't. Well then, I'll be seeing my lawyer tomorrow. Ok, I got it. She said, I can't believe this is happening. I said, ok, gotta go,bye.